Sunday, 21 August 2016

RIGHT NOW...

This moment,
All of us;
My family,
Exchanging news,
Eating, laughing & loving,
Together,
And I know,
The truth about happiness 



Roast Lamb at my place tonight :)

My grandson made me a tail which I'm so happy about
 as I've always wanted a tail :)

And he coloured in this picture for me





And he drew this cat :)
I've been collecting all of the little
 treasures my grandson give me :)




































Wednesday, 18 May 2016

Happy 18th son...

It was Reuben's 18th yesterday so we celebrated by going to the Pig and Whistle restaurant on Mount Dandenong and had a lovely evening.


Monday, 9 May 2016

Yesterday, Mother's Day ...

Was one of the most beautiful days of my life. It all started with breakfast in bed which Isabella made; blueberry pancakes with ice cream and maple syrup - YUM!


One of Isabella's gifts to me was a make-up and hair make-over for the day so she could photograph me wearing the latest clothing I'd finished sewing & knitting for my Craft Blog. She really is very clever when it comes to knowing what the viewer wants to see from both sides of the camera.













































And then everyone arrived and I received my lovely presents and cards. It really has been a wonderful year for family life this year and even though we've all been busy with work and career my children don't seem to mind me constantly hounding them with messages and phone calls to check in and make sure they're ok and are grateful when I sew and knit them all little bits and pieces like scarves and slippers. I think this is reflected in the beautiful messages that were written in cards. Bella went to the trouble of writing a journal of her life with me for the last 14 years and I have to admit, I was in tears when I read it :)






The words that were written really touched my heart. I am truly blessed to have such good and loving children, truly blessed :) Thomas made me a cute rustic flower box which will be very handy. His       business with Etsy is thriving The Flower Box Man.           

We went for a walk, even though it was showering, to the local park and then came back to my place and had Mum's homemade lasagne. And then it was me behind the camera and all of the photos were pixelated and over-exposed! Oh well, you can still get the picture. My kids are a bit camera shy these days after spending years having photos taken of them for my homeschool blog so I have to get in there and take them really fast :)





What a beautiful day :)                    













Thursday, 5 May 2016

From the demonic & eerie voice ...

... to the girl's maniacal laughter, this track is sure to get the youth of today up and dancing. Good job Reuben - my son the music producer. So proud :)

Richtofen




Sunday, 6 December 2015

HOME EDUCATION FOR TWENTY-FOUR YEARS AND COUNTING ...

I started my home education journey in 1992 with the birth of my first child. Being at home with children is as different from having a career outside the house as oil is to water. It's an adjustment that can take some time but always foremost in my mind was this idea or ideal really, that I would not miss one single thing where my children were concerned: why should someone else get the glory of seeing my child develop, why should I miss out? Over the years more children came along and my house seemed to be a magnet for kids that were having problems at home or whose parents were busy with work etc. It wasn't unusual for me to be cooking for 6 -8 people every night and you never knew who you'd be bumping into if you were up and about in the dark. It was a busy, bustling home life and homeschooling was always a lot of fun. I just loved every second of being a stay at home mum, even if it was with little outside assistance - little contact with the outside world - and deep down I knew I was doing the absolute right thing for my kids.

Fast forward to 2011 and we had a big surprise. A grandchild! Naturally and without hesitation I stepped up to the plate with exactly the same mentality as I'd had with my own children: this little one was a precious gift, a blessing from God and a sign that life as we knew it was to go on. That's why I was surprised when, by 2012, my health started to fail. The GP called it chronic pain and fatigue syndrome. The Specialist called it M.E, or Lupus. The therapist said it was complex trauma caused by childhood issues. The Naturopath said it was adrenal fatigue. Everyone had an opinion about what was wrong with me but no-one seemed to have any idea how to fix it. Fast forward another two years to January 2014 and my marriage ended. I took it as a sign; time to build an entirely new life.

There are some real advantages to becoming separated after eighteen years of marriage: things that were previously forbidden became possible ie: I got a job, I contacted old high school friends who I hadn't seen in decades and who were incredibly supportive, I moved to a new area to be closer to my adult children and started a brand new life. I am also currently saving for and helping my children and their partners pay for a big family vacation for one week in tropical North Queensland next winter, our first proper holiday together ever.

Suddenly the children's father was forced to put down his gaming control and spend time with his children for weekend access visits and I found myself with free time. I went back to school, started a new hobby, made heaps of new friends, could take myself off for weekend jaunts all by myself to visit my friends in Alexandra, Mount Beauty, Cape Patterson and Seaspray. I even had a chance to dip my big toe in the dating pool, although I quickly realised it wasn't for me and decided to remain single. In the 35 years since I had started dating way back in high school I had always given my all to every single relationship, which were mostly back to back but now those days are over. Here I am finally able to have time just for me and do whatever I want, whenever I want. It is nothing short of glorious!

I'm now able to concentrate on resoring my health and am happy to report that this year has been relatively symptom free. I know now, beyond a shadow of a doubt, exactly what to do to stay healthy and am determined to avoid triggers and stress and have cut toxic people from my life. I operate under a much simpler/gentler set of health laws to maintain optimum health and meditation and exercise are a big part of my new life.

I can now babysit my grandson ( I would say "our" grandson but my ex disowned him from the outset and didn't want anything to do with him) without having to tiptoe around grumpy grandad. I also made an action plan to deal with the mountain of debt the children's father had left behind; oh wow, how wonderful it was to finally have some control and independence over such matters and also autonomy when those things had been forbidden to me for almost two decades.

I took legal action against my non-paying publisher which ultimately - long story short - led to a new contract with another publisher. I am now throwing myself into editing my third manuscript in the children's series I am writing because, you never know, it could be the one! Being single means having lots of free time so I can get on with my career plans without being shot withering glances by a resentful partner.

I have become an advocate and supporter for reform for violence/abuse against females and am trying to spread awareness - due to Australia's appalling statistics of one death per week - and now have strong feminist leanings.

I am still available for my children 24/7 and am still assuming the role of father as well in some cases ie: I am teaching my 17 year old son how to drive and other miscellaneous things like putting petrol into the car and topping up oil and water because for some reason his father is unavailable for those things but now, I force myself to unplug regularly and just take a walk in nature or go to the cinema by myself and I absolutely forbid myself to feel guilty over those simple things that others take for granted. All of my children are eager to have children and I know my home educating days are far from over (I predict at least another ten grandchildren/great grandchildren) and my answer to that is: bring it! I'm still here, still standing and I am willing. 

Later: Bella just announced that she wants to marry a man "you've raised, mum! Not one of my brothers, that's just gross, but someone raised by you ..." My heart is smiling :)

My quilting friend Marg from Alexandra
 who took me under her wing and has
 become like a mum to me :)

Saturday, 12 September 2015

How is my Publisher going to explain this... ?

A preview for the program going to air tomorrow, Sunday 13th September 8.05am on ABC Radio National

For those of you who have been following the case of myself and 30 other authors who are involved in legal action against our Publisher Jojo, here's an example of what's been going on: 250 authors have been charged $2,000 each for air fares to the Frankfurt Book Fair which adds up to $500,000 and apparently they didn't even attend.

Later: or download the podcast at ABC National Radio Background Briefing.

Sunday, 19 July 2015

More Snapshots of my life:

It looks like my grandson has his father's talent for the guitar, he laid it down and started strumming it like he's been doing it for years :)

It was lovely to receive a cheque in the mail for the books I've written from the Ministry For The Arts. They were borrowed from libraries 99 times :)

My daughter Madeline bought her first piece of furniture
 for her flat and is very thrilled :)
My daughter Isabella got very dressed up to go and see the ballet
 with her father in the city. 



It was lovely to catch up with John Wood at the poet's afternoon :)
The cast of  Let Us Hurry To Love People, a poetic journey - John Wood and Exit Theatre.

Bella and I went and stayed in the City for three days so she could
attend the Royal Ballet Academy winter school.
 First day in Southbank with Sushi.

The view of the City from Southgate is just stunning.
 We just had to walk over that bridge and we were in the city

The City at night is just as breathtaking. The yellow building is Flinder's Street Station which is the biggest railway station in Australia.


Street entertainers are always very popular in Melbourne.

What an absolute delight: Thomas came into the City as he lives close by and I got to go out with my oldest child and youngest child for tea in the City. They decided on hamburgers for dinner so we ended up at Huxtabals after
 getting lost many times :)



We all instantly got our cameras out to take a photo of this box on the street that had free socks
"because awesomeness."

On the last day I treated myself to a visit to the NGV which is the National Gallery of Victoria and was a hop, skip and jump from where we were staying :)

... and guess what the exhibition was, the Pre-Raphaelite Brotherhood which just happens to be some of my favourite art :)



There was also a needlework exhibition


You can imagine how happy I was to be in a bookstore at an Art Gallery. This took up 90 minutes of my time
 and I wished for another $1000.00 for books for my collection at home :)